Mel Schilling dies aged 54: MAFS star passes away just days after revealing cancer had spread to her brain – as her husband pays heartbreaking tribute to ‘the queen of reality TV, an incredible mum and my soulmate’
Married At First Sight star Mel Schilling has tragically died aged 54 just days after revealing her cancer had spread to her brain.
The Australian psychologist-turned-dating expert, 54, was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2023 and she and her family had been living in London, where she was being treated. She announced that ‘after a tumour the size of a lemon’ was successfully removed she had been given the all clear.
But in a lengthy Instagram post last week, she revealed that she found out her cancer had metastasised to her lungs in February 2024, and over Christmas 2025 it was discovered it had spread to her brain.
Mel’s northern Irish husband Gareth Brisbane confirmed the news of her death on Instagram on Tuesday in a beautiful statement in which he spoke about her love for him and their daughter Madison, ten.
He wrote: ‘Melanie Jane Brisbane-Schilling passed away peacefully today, surrounded by love.
‘In her final moments, when I thought cancer had taken away her ability to speak, she ushered me closer and whispered a message for Maddie and me that will sustain me for the rest of my life.
‘It took all of her remaining strength, and that gesture summed up our wee Melsie perfectly. Even then, her only thought was for Maddie and me.
‘This is a woman who became a new mum and a TV star at 42 — and nailed both.’

Married At First Sight star Mel Schilling has tragically died aged 54, her husband Gareth revealed in a statement on Instagram on Tuesday, alongside a series of beautiful images of her
Mel is well known for being a no-nonsense dating expert on Married At First Sight
Mel’s husband Gareth shared this picture of them and wrote: ‘Melanie Jane Brisbane-Schilling passed away peacefully today, surrounded by love’ – Mel had revealed the cancer had spread to her brain just days ago

Gareth added: ‘In her final moments, when I thought cancer had taken away her ability to speak, she ushered me closer and whispered a message for Maddie and me that will sustain me for the rest of my life’ – pictured with Gareth and daughter Maddie, who is now aged 10

This is a woman who, through two years of chemotherapy, when she could barely lift her head from the pillow, never complained and never stopped showing courage, grace, compassion and empathy, and never missed a day of filming.
‘To most of you, she was Mel Schilling — matriarch of MAFS and queen of reality TV. To Maddie and me, she was our wee Melsie: an incredible mum, role model, and soulmate.’
‘On behalf of our family and her incredible friendship group, thank you for the support from around the world.
‘I also want to thank our wonderful MAFS family — John, Alessandra, Charlene, Roxy, and Sophie — for your kindness and compassion.
‘To Lee, Louie, Susy, and Ian at Channel 4 / CPL, who went above and beyond for us, we will never forget it. To Sarah at InterTalent, not just an agent, but a true confidante.
‘And to the wonderful Elizabeth Day — Mel’s podcasting partner and dear friend — thank you for your friendship and empathy.’
He added: ‘Life can be beautiful, and life can be incredibly cruel. But ultimately, life is fleeting, fragile, and tomorrow is promised to no one. If you can do anything to honour Mel, please live life to the full, love your people well, and try not to sweat the small stuff.
‘I had 15 wonderful years with my soulmate, and it was the privilege of my life to be by her side. For that, I will be forever thankful.
‘Goodbye, my love. My one. Until we meet again.’
Mel helmed the expert panel of the Australian franchise for 12 seasons and also appeared in five series of the UK version on Channel 4.
But she had announced she would be stepping back from filming earlier this year, in order to prioritise her family and health.
Australian expert John Aiken stepped in to replace her for the remainder of the latest UK series, as filming was underway.
Mel first revealed that she had been diagnosed with colon cancer in December 2023, and she had to have surgery to remove a 5cm tumour.
Mel has a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology as well as a Graduate Diploma in Psychology.

Just last week the dating expert revealed that her cancer has spread to her brain and there was nothing more doctors could do, leading to an outpouring of support, (pictured with Gareth and Maddie)
She had been a practising psychologist for more than 20 years and began her career in 1998 as a Consulting Psychologist at Morgan and Banks.
In 2001, she took on a role as Senior Consulting Psychologist with Personnel Decisions International and went into consulting as a Consulting Psychologist for Extraversion Consulting.
Mel, who has a net worth of £1million, also worked as an actress, gaining an unexpected credit in Neighbours before she was cast in MAFS and also starred in procedural cop show, Blue Heelers which ran from 1993 to 2006.
Mel’s MAFS co-star John Aiken, who starred on the UK and Australia versions of the show with Mel for ten years led the tributes with a heartbreaking message about his ‘partner in crime’.
Alongside photos of one of their first TV appearances together alongside one of their last, John wrote: ‘Where it began and where it ended.
‘It’s with great sadness and heavy heart that today I lost my dear friend and fellow MAFS expert Mel Schilling. I am heartbroken, devastated and finding it hard to breathe.
‘She came into my life 10 years ago and together we rode this juggernaut, being there for one another through it all. Nothing could prepare us for what lay ahead, but she was always in the fox hole with me.

Mel pictured with Gareth on their wedding day
It was a privilege and an honor to sit beside her on the MAFS couch and watch her shine. She was warm, supportive and honest, and she deeply cared about all our participants. I had a front row seat to her remarkable skills and she truly believed in the experiment. At her core she loved love ❤️
‘And behind the scenes we had so much fun. Before going on set we would sing, dance, face time her daughter and eat lollies. Every time I came to set she would squeal, jump out of her chair and run and embrace me – squeezing me tight.
‘And through all of these years she was an amazing mother and wife. She was loving, committed, loyal, fun and so very very kind. And she always had as her driving force her family. She was a role model for all to see.
‘And when her illness struck she never complained. She kept her challenges to herself and continued to deliver time and time again. She was an inspiration, a fighter, a leader.
‘It’s not fair that my partner in crime is gone. She was one of the good ones. I am unravelling just thinking about it. I wanted to sit on our couch together forever. She knew my rhythms and I knew hers. But it’s simply not to be.
‘Dearest Mel – I want to thank you for everything you have given me over the past decade. I am distraught. Sadly and devastatingly I have to accept that you are now gone.


Alongside photos of one of their first TV appearances together alongside one of their last, John wrote: ‘Where it began and where it ended’
The MAFS universe weeps, as does all your dearest family and friends. Particularly, all my love and prayers go to Gareth and Maddie – we have all been blessed to have known her. I love you and I miss you gorgeous. xx.’
Channel 4 paid tribute to Mel on Tuesday, writing: ‘All of us at Channel 4 are incredibly saddened by the news of Mel’s death. Our thoughts and condolences are, first and foremost, with her family and loved ones.
‘We’re privileged to be the channel that is home to Mel’s work, which was at the heart of Married at First Sight’s phenomenal success, both in the UK and Australia. It reflected so much about her – her fierce advocacy for other women, her passion for healthy relationships and her mission to unite people in love.
‘Just as importantly, we’d like to pay tribute to Mel as a person. For many who work for Channel 4, Mel was not just a colleague but a friend, someone who radiated joy, warmth and optimism, who energised every room she walked into with humour and postivity.
‘Everyone who knew her will miss all this about her and much more. We share in the sorrow that we’re sure many viewers will now feel at this terrible loss.’
CPL, who make Married at First Sight UK added: ‘All at CPL were deeply saddened to hear of the death of our beloved friend and colleague, Mel Schilling.
‘Over many years, many of us have been privileged to work with Mel on Married at First Sight, and her loss today will come as a tremendous sadness to all who knew her.
‘Mel went far beyond being just a fantastic on-screen presenter; she was a friend to CPL, and to many of us who worked with her.
‘We send our love and heartfelt condolences at this incredibly difficult time to Mel’s family, friends, and all who were close to her. She will be deeply missed by everyone whose lives she touched.’
Mel’s fellow dating expert on MAFS UK Charlene Douglas wrote that she was ‘devastated’.
She penned: ‘Gareth, know that Mel loved you and Maddie beyond words. Always here for you if you need anything. To my darling Mel – rest in eternal peace. Love you.’
MAFS UK star Laura Vaughan added: ‘Darling Mel. To say you were an inspiration to many would fall incredibly short. You were a beacon of light to all who knew you, loved you and watched you around the world.
‘To know you is to be in awe of you. I remember us talking about your cancer diagnosis backstage on a campaign shoot, you grabbed my hand and with a wink you said “I’m a fighter, don’t you worry” and that’s exactly what you were.
‘I feel so privileged to have met you, worked with you and experienced firsthand the kindness you gave in abundance. It embodied you. This world is a lonelier place without you in it. Thoughts are with your family and those close to you. Rest easy now.’

Fellow MAFS dating expert Charlene Douglas shared her condolences



Channel 4, which airs MAFS series in the UK, released a poignant statement, paying tribute to ‘our friend who radiated joy, warmth and optimism’